1NEWS, A friend is someone who knows you, and is always with you. Most of us also probably rely on friends for almost everything. But for some sometimes incomprehensible reasons, the friendship falls apart. Just like a partner, losing a friend is no less painful.
If you’ve just lost a friend and don’t know how to deal with heartache, here ACCURATE.CO outline a few ways to help you:
Let yourself be sad
People tend to underestimate the sadness that comes from the loss of a friend. However, the fact that losing a friend is also very painful.
As with any loss, you must allow yourself to grieve the loss of a friend. It’s okay not to be okay when the best friend you trusted is no longer a part of your life. You don’t have to be ashamed.
Take time to work through the pain, and don’t rush through this phase. The more you deny your hurt, the harder it will be for you to come to terms with it.
Losing a best friend is like losing a confidant, someone who knows all your thoughts and personal life. Losing them can make you lose yourself. So, the only way to get past this is to understand yourself.
Allow yourself to process your thoughts. You can do this by keeping a journal or diary. Write down what you feel and think. That way, you will be better able to understand yourself in the face of this loss.
Talk to someone
If you don’t like the idea of a thought journal, then find someone you trust to pour out all your thoughts and heartaches. It can be anyone, therapist, spouse, family, or co-workers.
Talking to other people prevents you from blaming yourself and helps you see the reasons behind the breakup. Remember, sometimes the best advice comes from people you never expected.
Don’t lock yourself up
Losing a friend can make you lose confidence. You become more aloof, and away from the environment. However, slowly find your confidence again. Get back to socializing and meeting people.
Engage in group activities and connect with people, both old and new. Let yourself be happy in the present and remember that there are many people out there who could potentially be your best friend.
If one friendship doesn’t work out, it doesn’t mean the other doesn’t either. Smile!