Phenomenon bullying among teenagers is very common and not a new thing. Since long ago, the phenomenon bullying happened and the victims came from various circles. Some celebrities also claim to have been victims bullying as a teenager, including Anang Hermansyah’s wife, Ashanty. Even though he is now a famous singer, in high school he was a victim bullying because he used to have a fat body posture. Here is Ashanty’s vent when he was bullied in high school.
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Confess Ashanty was bullied
Launching from SecondsHot, Ashanty admitted that he had been a victim bully in high school. He did admit that at that time, he had a much different posture than now. He used to be fat in high school. At that time, many of his friends were talking about this posture.
This also makes the singer of “My Pain” feel insecure and does everything to lose weight. One of them is taking diet pills that she continued to take for years until her first pregnancy.
“I came from high school because I was fat, I was told, bullied. I always took diet pills carelessly until I gave birth to Arsy. I was still taking the diet pills and I was very skinny but was vomiting, sick, and really bad,” said Ashanty while attending the launching of AExpert in Pondok Indah, South Jakarta, Monday (4 /10/2021) to SecondsHot. Ashanty also said that he had become insecure and stressed.
“And I used to be really fat. So if I pass I’m like, ‘Oh watch out there’s a bundle passing by.’ So I was stressed,” he recalls. In addition to physical posture, he also had time to become material bully-because of the color of his skin. He is considered different because his father and mother have a skin color that is much whiter than him.
“Had been a victim of bullying, because Mama and Papa were so white. I was born white, when I grow up I like to be hot until I say, ‘Whose child is different from his mother,’” he said. From this experience, he was then motivated to own a skin care product company, which until now has been increasingly successful.
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The importance of embedding body positivity to teenagers
Looking at Ashanty’s story of being bullied, it can be seen that teenagers are vulnerable to experiencing bullying because of his body shape. Therefore embed body positivity be an important step. Adolescents often face significant pressure to meet strict, unrealistic and dangerous ideals around beauty and body shape and weight. The search for the “perfect” body or appearance can be very detrimental to a teenager’s self-confidence and physical and mental health.
Causes of Negative Body Image
Body image is how a person thinks or feels about their appearance, body, and feelings about themselves. Maintaining a normal, healthy body image during adolescence, a period of great physical and emotional change, can be difficult. Factors that can damage a teenager’s body image include:
- Natural or expected weight gain and other changes caused by puberty
- Peer pressure to look a certain way
- Social media and other media images that promote the ideal body as fit, thin, or muscular and encourage users to aspire to an unrealistic or unattainable ideal body
- Having parents who are too concerned about their own weight, their partner’s weight or their child’s appearance
Teens who have negative thoughts about their bodies are at increased risk of:
- Decreased self-confidence
- Nutrition and growth problems
- Eating Disorder
- Have a body mass index of 30 or higher (obese)
In addition, some teens may try to control their weight by smoking, taking nutritional supplements to “gain weight,” or changing their appearance by buying beauty products or getting cosmetic surgery. Spending time worrying about their bodies and how they measure can also reduce a teenager’s ability to concentrate on other activities.
How to embed body positivity to teenagers
Thus, talking about body image to teenagers is indeed quite important. Here are some steps that can be taken, as reported by Mayo Clinic.
- Give a good examplek. How you accept your body and talk about other people’s bodies can have a huge impact on your teen. Remind your child that you exercise and eat a balanced diet is something to do for health, not just for a certain appearance.
- Use positive language. Instead of talking about your child’s physical attributes or other people’s, praise personal characteristics such as strength, perseverance, and kindness. Avoid showing negative physical attributes to others or to yourself. Don’t make or allow hurtful nicknames, comments, or jokes based on a person’s physical characteristics, weight, or body shape.
- Explain the consequences of puberty! Make sure your child understands that weight gain is a normal and healthy part of development, especially during puberty.
- Talk about media messages. Social media, movies, television shows, and magazines may send the message that only certain body types or skin colors are acceptable and that maintaining an attractive appearance is the most important goal. Even the media advocating being healthy, athletic, or fit may portray a narrow ideal body — one that is toned and thin. Social media and magazine images are also often changed aliases through the editing process. As a result, teens may seek to fulfill ideals that do not exist in the real world. Therefore, it is important to see what your child is reading or watching and discussing. Encourage your child to question what he sees and hears.
- Monitor social media usage. Teenagers use social media and platform similar to share images and get feedback. Awareness of other people’s judgments can make teens feel self-conscious about their appearance. Research also shows that frequent use of social media by adolescents may be linked to poorer mental health and well-being. Set rules for your teen’s social media use and talk about what he or she posts and sees.
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In addition to talking to your teen about a healthy body image, you can:
- Collaborate with doctors. Your doctor can help you set realistic goals for your body mass index (BMI) and weight based on your personal growth history and overall health.
- Establish healthy eating habits. Teach your teen how to eat a healthy, balanced diet. Offers a wide variety of food. Talk about the dangers of an unhealthy diet and avoid labeling foods as “good” or “bad”.
- Counter negative media messages. Expose your kids to people who are known for their accomplishments — not their looks. For example, reading a book or watching a movie about inspiring people and their persistence to overcome challenges.
- Praise achievements. Help your child appreciate what he does, not what he looks like. Look for opportunities to praise efforts, skills and accomplishments.
- Encourage physical activity. Participating in sports and other physical activities — especially those that don’t emphasize a particular body weight or shape — can help promote good self-esteem and a positive body image.
- Encouraging positive friendships. Friends who accept and support your teen can be a healthy influence. In particular, friends who have a healthy relationship with their own bodies can be positive influences.
That’s how Ashanty vents about being bullied and a discussion about the importance of planting body positivity against teenagers. Overall, Ashanty’s story makes us aware of the impact of negative body image and its importance body positivity to protect adolescents from mental and physical health disorders.
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